The piece does a great job explaining what not to do with anger, but it’s short on what you should do instead. In my view, the missing step is teaching children — and adults — to recognize the emotion, pause before reacting, and channel the energy into safe, constructive actions. That might mean taking deep breaths, going for a walk, talking it out calmly, or finding solutions once everyone’s cooled down. Anger is a signal, not a master — and learning to regulate it is the real antidote.
Yeah. At one time, I exhibited literally criminal levels of acting out in rage. Noticing the emotion early and exiting the well-worn path to rage was a huge factor in learning self-control. This section has inspired me write more on the solution side.
Great post! I was wondering about your thoughts on vigorous exercise. Are there mental and emotional benefits to doing intense workouts? I really feel good when I do these kinds of workouts. I'm not sure if its an outlet for an emotion as much as redirecting my energy into something more positive than anger or frustration. What do you think? Great video clips by the way.
Thanks, Ben! I'm with St. Paul, "For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come." I think it has value. Definitely. It's not where I ultimately hang my hat and hopes for eternity. But, I am writing this on a treadmill, if that gives you any idea. In my case, physical exercise is a resource that God has given me, and I have not been grateful enough or diligent enough in making use of it.
I'm flummoxed that you vaunt the Golden Mean and then, in the words of Billy Joel "go to extremes." Catharsis does not equal tantrum. There is a wonderful Golden Mean here between rage rooms and the northern European cultural tendency to push down emotions. Let's go with that instead. Expressing emotions (even anger) can be healthy.
I should have taken flummoxing in college, Im pretty good at. :-) I agree that epressing emotions can be healthy, especially if you use words instead of fists. But an anger room isn't about sharing how you feel, reframing your thoughts, reality-testing, asking for emotional support, or seeking solutions. It's physical acting out.
As a another commentator mentioned, this piece is heavy on what not to do, and light on what to do. I think I'll do a part two, not to explain this one, but to clarify my own thinking on this topic.
The piece does a great job explaining what not to do with anger, but it’s short on what you should do instead. In my view, the missing step is teaching children — and adults — to recognize the emotion, pause before reacting, and channel the energy into safe, constructive actions. That might mean taking deep breaths, going for a walk, talking it out calmly, or finding solutions once everyone’s cooled down. Anger is a signal, not a master — and learning to regulate it is the real antidote.
Yeah. At one time, I exhibited literally criminal levels of acting out in rage. Noticing the emotion early and exiting the well-worn path to rage was a huge factor in learning self-control. This section has inspired me write more on the solution side.
Great post! I was wondering about your thoughts on vigorous exercise. Are there mental and emotional benefits to doing intense workouts? I really feel good when I do these kinds of workouts. I'm not sure if its an outlet for an emotion as much as redirecting my energy into something more positive than anger or frustration. What do you think? Great video clips by the way.
Thanks, Ben! I'm with St. Paul, "For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come." I think it has value. Definitely. It's not where I ultimately hang my hat and hopes for eternity. But, I am writing this on a treadmill, if that gives you any idea. In my case, physical exercise is a resource that God has given me, and I have not been grateful enough or diligent enough in making use of it.
I'm flummoxed that you vaunt the Golden Mean and then, in the words of Billy Joel "go to extremes." Catharsis does not equal tantrum. There is a wonderful Golden Mean here between rage rooms and the northern European cultural tendency to push down emotions. Let's go with that instead. Expressing emotions (even anger) can be healthy.
I should have taken flummoxing in college, Im pretty good at. :-) I agree that epressing emotions can be healthy, especially if you use words instead of fists. But an anger room isn't about sharing how you feel, reframing your thoughts, reality-testing, asking for emotional support, or seeking solutions. It's physical acting out.
As a another commentator mentioned, this piece is heavy on what not to do, and light on what to do. I think I'll do a part two, not to explain this one, but to clarify my own thinking on this topic.
Brutal. Love it.
You would condone brutality.